Twenty-forth Sunday after Pentecost Yr A Proper 27 Nov 12 2023 (Third Sunday before Advent)

Rev. Dr. Kathy Monson Lutes at Sts. Luke and James, Minneapolis MN

Twenty-forth Sunday after Pentecost Yr A Proper 27 Nov 12 2023 (Third Sunday before Advent)

Joshua 24:1-3a, 14-25, Psalm 78:1-7,1 Thessalonians 4:13-18, Matthew 25:1-13

Last Sunday, the Feast of All Saints and All Souls, we gathered in the midst of so much memory and joy, we remembered those who walked this journey before us, and we baptized those new humans who are just beginning this journey, and we recommitted ourselves to following Jesus. We are surrounded by the cloud of witnesses. The baptismal promises we make for ourselves and on behalf of those new to the journey with Jesus, call us to bear a light, into what can be a dark world, a light  that illuminates justice and mercy, respect and dignity, love for our neighbor.  And as we wonder what that looks like for each of us and for our community of faith, we are confronted by this parable in Matthew, one in a series of really hard stories contained in this gospel.

As I thought about this story, this parable, I wondered about this wedding. Weddings then were not what we think of weddings now. Today, one person asks the other to marry, an answer is given, a date set, preparations made, guests invited. There is much planning, anticipation, and expectation. At the appointed time on the appointed day, everyone shows up, the vows are made, and the party begins. Not so much at a wedding such as we have before us. A marriage was a transaction between two property holders, one property holder, the father of the woman, selling said property to the family of a man. The man and the woman, or the bridegroom and the bride, may never have even met prior to the wedding. The deal has to be struck, and the negotiations may be quick, or may be drawn out, with no way to determine the time for the wedding to take place, people came, milled about, and waited until the deed was done. So in our story today, everyone fell asleep while waiting, and as they awoke, some discovered that they had no more oil in their lamps, and went off to get more. In the meantime, the door to the wedding banquet was opened, and those who were there were let in, those who went away to gather more oil, missed out. Keep awake, they were told.

What are we to gather from this? What does it mean to keep awake? What does it mean to be ready? What does Jesus ask of us? Those are the questions I think are at the center of what we hear today. And, since I believe that it is Love at the center of the gospel,  and I don't believe Jesus ever closes a door forever and always on anyone, what can this mean? 

We all have our "bucket list." Travel, and adventure, that list of things to do and accomplish by the time you kick the bucket. Now, granted all that is a lot of fun, but even if this passage from Matthew is about being ready for the end of our lives or being ready for the end of time, I don't think checking items off our list is what Jesus asks of us, or calls us to do, to be ready. 

Getting ready is something I'm really good at. I make lists, I accomplish tasks, I think of more things to do so I make more lists. I plan ahead, my calendar for next year is already getting filled in. I do research so I know what to expect. I already have my winter emergency stuff in the car, my sleeping bag, an extra hat, extra mittens and scarves, if I get caught in a storm, I'm ready. If I were one of those bridesmaids, I'd have enough oil and then some more, just in case. I know that preparation is the key to success.

But, being ready is different than getting ready. Getting ready implies accomplishing things, being ready is much more about staying awake, paying attention, letting go of distractions. And that is what I wonder if this passage is really about. I wonder if this passage is about being fully present to each other, being fully present to creation, being fully present to wonder and surprise and love. I wonder if this passage is about not just waiting for the door to open when the party is beginning, but living completely in the fullness of our humanity, in all of its joy and all of its pain. 

I wonder if this passage may be about bringing your authentic self to Jesus? Maybe staying awake is not being perfect or full, but it is about bringing your most authentic, vulnerable, true self to the door. Jesus wants us to bring all of who we are, warts and vulnerability, hurts and joys, our perfect masks removed, our thick wall of protection torn down, the entrails of our addictions that we think fill us, laid aside. Maybe Jesus wants to open the door wide to who we really are, not who we pretend to be, and not even who we strive to be. Maybe Jesus wants to open the door wide to who we really are, not who we present for inspection. I think sometimes we spend so much time running around filling up our lamps, filling up our time, making our lists and checking them off, we completely miss the really important things of staying awake, like loving and healing; like forgiving; like being marked as Christ's own forever; like reaching out to take Jesus’ hand.

It is that primal person, that naked heart, that vulnerable and authentic self whom Jesus loves, that's who Jesus yearns to throw his arms around and welcome to the party. Your self, ready and waiting, bathed in the love of your creator, just as you are. You, no need for primping or planning, no questions of not being good enough, or not having accomplished enough, or having enough oil in your lamp. Just you, absolutely and abundantly loved. And what a party it will be. Just like at this table, room enough and food enough for everyone. Only better. 

A few of us were able to hear our Presiding Bishop, Michael Curry, over the weekend. It was the first time he was speaking after recovering from surgery this summer. He was as energetic as usual, and reminded us again, that if it isn’t about love, it isn’t about God. And our Bishop Craig Loya, encouraged us to splash in the water, just like we splashed last week in the waters of baptism, and to reach out in love to all those who need a healing, loving word. 

Be ready, love God, love yourself, love others. 

Thanks be to God.